As obvious and redundant as it is, I'm going to say it: the important part of being good at a game is to enjoy it. Here come the eye-rolls and well, duh!s. I say this because it may not always be obvious. The elephant in the room for me, before I got rid of my X Box 360 and converted to PS3 and PC gaming, was that I was always afraid I'd end up going up against my former best friend and/ or one of his cronies via XBL.
Even playing other games on the 360, I was afraid I'd cross paths with one of them. I didn't enjoy playing games like Halo or Call of Duty anymore because I always felt like I had a target painted on me and I lost more matches than I won because I wasn't able to focus and enjoy the games. It got to the point where I just canceled my XBL account and sold my 360.
Enjoying a game and feeling like you're good at it can go hand in hand. With games like Call of Duty, you're going to switch back and forth between having good and bad games. After taking an almost year break from the franchise and dwelling into other games like Uncharted 3 and Borderlands 2, I started to realize that having that theoretical weight lifted off of my shoulders let me focus more and (gasp!) get better at gaming in general. I started to see the difficulty of games as less of a threat and more of an overall challenge and built up confidence that way. I think it also got me to start working on writing projects again, but I digress.
Soon after Black Ops 2 (II?) came out, I went and picked up a copy for the PS3. Sure, I was rusty with the multi-player at first, but it wasn't long before I started poppin' headshots and blowing fools to bits. Recently, it dawned on me that the reason I'm doing better at the game is because I'm legitimately enjoying it more. Making on-the-go strategies and switching between playing smart and a good ol' fashioned run-n-gun routine felt fresh and fun without the Facebook worthy social drama.
Sure, it took a gaming-exodus for it to hit me like a boss in Dark Souls, but it's nice to be able to focus on the game and learn it. Whether if you're doing it to de-stress, challenge your mind/ skills, or just to see things blow up good (as they do often tend to), enjoying the game is a large part of being good at it. It wasn't that obvious to me.